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“I’m Sorry”-Why Do Women Say It?

Rev.Wm.J.Romansky OM BRE

“We are not so smart as He is dumb.”

  • But Zelophehad, the son of Hepher, the son of Gilead, the son of Machir, the son of Manasseh, had no sons, but daughters: and these are the names of his daughters, Mahlah, and Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah.  And they came near before Eleazar the priest, and before Joshua the son of Nun, and before the princes, saying, The LORD commanded Moses to give us an inheritance among our brethren. Therefore according to the commandment of the LORD he gave them an inheritance among the brethren of their father.  And there fell ten portions to Manasseh, beside the land of Gilead and Bashan, which were on the other side Jordan; because the daughters of Manasseh had an inheritance among his sons: and the rest of Manasseh’s sons had the land of Gilead. Joshua 17:3-6 KJV


  • I’ve worked in predominately female vocations, and can’t tell you how many times a female coworker has said “I’m sorry” for just doing their job.  I might’ve been surfing the net for no reason in particular, but if a woman had to bump me from our shared computer for work-related activities, she’d say “I’m sorry”.  And I can’t tell you how often my beautiful wife has set a perfect dinner in front of me and apologized for some miniscule imperfection I didn’t even notice.  How can she be sorry for such a great Italian meal?


  • On the other hand, a man will only say “I’m sorry” as often as he’s determined he’s committed an infraction, and not one single time more.  But women often say “I’m sorry” for no apparent reason, and say it in such a way as to portray a deep and personal regret.  Is it a generally bad self image among women that begins during their childhood?  Is it the result of a world rampant with neglect, abuse, and disregard toward women?  As children, many men are neglected and abused as well, but we generally don’t apologize unless we pragmatically judge ourselves as being truly in the wrong.  Something a lot deeper than just having a bad day is behind the constant apologizing that women tend to do.


  • While reading Joshua’s account of Zelophehad’s daughters, we find no such apology, no “I’m sorry” preceding their demand for the inheritance given to them by the Lord.  We can imagine them coming before the council of the priest, Joshua, and the princes of Israel, demanding the land that would normally go to male heirs.  We don’t know the background of these bold women, but we know their positive attitude did not come from self-actualization, self-empowerment, or self-realization.  All of the “self” centered fixes to women’s deep seated spiritual issues are ineffective.  They will not gain any woman the spiritual stature we all desire, but that women seem to struggle with much more than we men.


  • The daughters of Zelphehad were truly empowered by the inheritance of the LORD!  They had an inheritance among the sons of Israel.  What does this mean to the many women who go through life apologizing for the good they do, for the service they provide, for the nurturing and blessing they give to their families, friends, and the rest of the world?  


  • Here it is, and it’s simple.  No need to say “I’m sorry” anymore.  No more apologizing.  Contrary to the general revisionist belief that Jesus only freed women from the burden of second class citizenry in the New Testament, we find that the Lord’s attitude toward women preceding the New Testament is one of full acceptance as a “son”, that is, one with full rights and responsibilities in His kingdom.  Women’s being a joint heir with Christ preceded His arrival here on earth.  Under Mosaic Law, which feminists have painted as misogynistic and negatively patriarchal, we find Joshua viewing women as equal to men toward matters of inheritance and promise.  


  • An interesting caveat here.  These women demanded their inheritance.  They didn’t apologize, didn’t say “I’m sorry”, didn’t need the representation of their father.  They didn’t need to break free from male domination.  Their was no glass ceiling.  They simply realized that the land was theirs, the blessing was theirs, and they effectively presented their case before the council. 

       And they didn’t say “I’m sorry”.


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September 17, 2008 Posted by | atheism, atheist, christian, christianity, Commentary, faith, islam, philosophy, politics, quran, religion, Uncategorized | 5 Comments